The Disease of Business
While checking my twitter feed this morning, half asleep in my bed where I’m staying in the North End while my house gets ripped up from a New Years Flood, I read an article, “Are you addicted to being busy?” http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/owning-pink/201404/are-you-addicted-being-busy
I realized I am probably one of the worst offenders of being busy and wearing it around like a badge. “I can work overnights and still attend law school!” “I can foster dogs, and have my own dog, make a mural wall in my hallway from pinterest while I cook a new recipe and read 700 pages of con law.” I’d be lying to say that I hadn’t considered whether my business or more than just having many interests and passions….While being busy at my age (26) is relatively ‘normal’ business can also be a symptom, as this blog article above suggests, of avoidance and defense. The blog encourages one to ask “What’s behind the to do list?”
- Being afraid of dedicating a lot of time to an intimate relationship that might not work.
- Being nervous about what to do left with my own thoughts.
- Worrying about life being short and needing to get things done.
- Worrying that not spending time on goals is not getting me anywhere fast.
- Hiding some of my shyness and nerves about meeting new people or just lolly gagging around…
Finding Peace with Slowing Down:
For me, with finals approaching, work happening, and second, third, fourth dates on the horizon…there’s not much time to slow down. However, I do think daily life moments can be focused on slowing down. The blog post suggests potential mediation, but I think for myself, at my speed, a hot tea (I just put about 100 tea bags in my purse for tea on the run) as well as trying to breathe more deeply and enjoy 10 minute walks a few times a day with my dog will be about as much as I can handle for slowing down….
I have made progress this year in terms of dedicating less time to things I just don’t care about….If you don’t feel like going out, don’t! If you feel like watching 10 House of Cards Episode with a box of milanos (mint)…proceed!
But I’ve got miles to go in terms of enjoying the moment and slowing.my.whole.self.down 🙂 Thoughts?